I came across this poem by Cambridge poet, Hollie McNish. It served as a wonderful reminder that we have all adjusted to life in our own way, and there is no right or wrong in how each of us choose the practise that.
our own way - Hollie McNish
no, she's not doing all the work the school has set
no, we've not learnt to bake chocolate croissants yet
no, i haven't managed to keep up with all my work
no, i've not had any urge at all to clean my house
no, we're not out jogging as the sun comes up to shine
no, we've not been following the extra class online
no, i haven't used this time at home for meditating
no, we've not made any masks or scrubs from our old curtains
yes, she's done a little bit of the work the school has set
yes, we tried to make hash browns, cook her first fried egg
yes, she's on my phone again so i can get these emails done
yes, i've cried a few times whilst hiding in the bathroom
yes, i can still see through my never-once-cleaned window glass
yes, we've played twister, yes that counts as P.E class
yes, she's been on zoom playing roblox all day saturday
yes, we're sat in separate rooms; yes, we both need space to play.
no, i don't feel guilty. yes, we're both okay.
just getting through this time in our own way.
Moving forward, I can see that we'll need to create new rituals and routines in the coming weeks. And again in a few weeks from then.
Having the flexibility to adapt to our rapidly changing circumstances without guilt or attachment is vital to feeling calm and in control.
With so much change, it's important to remember what your zone of power is. We have a 'zone of power' worksheet available here to help you.
Understanding what is within your control and what is outside of it, enables you to respond to change appropriately.